Jun 1, 2015

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Principle VII ~ Create & Sustain Relationships & Community That Honor Individual Choices of Conscience


by Janet Kira Lessin

>Choose.  We advocate CHOICE.  Be the chooser, decider, author of this chapter of your life.  Make discerning choices that serve you, choices that facilitate your personal growth and evolution and at the same time honor and respect the people you commit to love.

You have relationship options – monogamy, celibacy, open marriage, pair-bonded inclusive relating, triads (man-woman-man, woman-man-woman, man-man-man, woman-woman-woman) polyfidelity, loving networks, group marriage, multi-generational line marriage, and more. You have heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual alternatives within each.  You have many spiritual practices and value systems to chose–to mix and match with your relationship options, styles and sexual orientation.  What is most important is that you are the chooser and that you come from choice.

Society, sick of infidelity, longs for honesty and openness.  When will we at last free to be who we really are instead of hiding our thoughts, wants, desires and longings from everyone, including our mates?

No longer fooled by domination programming, we free ourselves from “sin” and cultural inhibitions that served the age of patriarchy.  Free, we realize we’ve outgrown  ancient, restrictive ideas that no longer serve our new, centered, balanced male to female, yinyang, partnership society.   As we make love not war with renewed enthusiasm, we embrace a more civilized civilization that honors the uniqueness and special qualities of one and all and recognize sexual freedom as a healthy expressions of our true nature. Bonobo “chimps,” our biologically closest cousins, show us the eroticism of our natural, animal natures.

We move into an era of new awareness and freedom while we simultaneously experience the pressure of increasing potential restrictions imposed upon us by those who feel threatened by our ability to be free.  Unchallenged, they would rob us of our choice to be who we truly are.

In 1816 Thomas Jefferson wrote the following:

“I never told my own religion nor scrutinized that of another.  I never attempted to make a convert, nor wished to change another’s creed.  I am satisfied that yours must be an excellent religion to have produced a life of such exemplary virtue and correctness.  For it is in our lives, and not from our words, that our religion must be judged.”

The Tantra Theosophical Society and Temple of Tantra span a synergistic network of tantra students, practitioners and polyamorists–people who love more than one in intimate relationships.  These cultural creatives consciously collaborate to heal the planet by creating a a new paradigm of peace and love.  We envision a world where personal choice is honored, freedom of expression’s celebrated, individuality’s embraced and love’s revered.

In polyamory, appropriate for some people some of the time, we celebrate love through varied relationship structures, diversity of its people, sexual orientation and avenues of expression.  Polyamory (loving many) is a high art form and a profound spiritual path which encourages honesty, authentic relating, conscious connections, kind communication and unconditional love. Relating polyamorously frees all of us, awakens the world and propels the planet towards peace.

The Tantra Theosophical Society supports freedom lovers who desire truth and seek avenues to be true to themselves.  Through our temple on Maui, conferences, seminars, support groups, counseling, co-creating and cooperative collaboration we pioneers ofrelationship choice pave the way for participants everywhere to experience the fulfillment of desires and deeply held wishes. We discard cultural conditioning, societal pressure, religious programming and attitudes that no longer serve us.  We meet our needs, have what we want and free ourselves from guilt and shame.  Join us and help create new paradigms where we have it all while caring for those we love and hold space for their healing and growth.

DNA studies have revealed that humans are pair-bonded but not sexually monogamous.  The monogamy myth has created incredible wounds on the human psyche which have harmed us far too long.  Polyamory is a viable option for conscious relating that eliminates lying and cheating.  Cheating undermines loving relationships, widens the gender gap and propagates the war of the sexes.  Polyamory promotes balance and partnership society.  It eliminates patriarchy, domination and hierarchy, the very causes of war.

Poly amory , loving more than one person at the same time, is always a good choice.  No problem, love many.

But Poly sexuality, more than one lover?  Polyamory with polysexuality-one of several relationship options-works well for some people some of the time.  But so, too, do any of the other relationship options–monogamy, singlehood, even celibacy works for other people some of the time.

Stand tall and firm, proud to be who you are.  You are wise enough to decide for yourself what suits you in each moment as you journey through life.

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